a feeling of deep distress caused by loss, or other misfortune suffered by oneself or others.

Oh dear readers, you know I try and keep things positive, perky & pretty, but then life throws at you something that knocks you off your feet. We have spent the last many days being with a friend at the end of an illness that ended up taking her life. We are still in quite a deep fog, but I wanted to share with all of you what we have been going through, as it is such a part of life, the really very un-fun part of life. But like all aspects of life, how you choose to view, look at, and deal with the scenario is really when you find out what you are made of. While we are so intensely filled with sadness that our beloved Whitney is gone, we are doing all we can to honor and remember the amazing life she led. This was an incredibly smart woman with incredible style, Old World manners, a wicked wit, who liked nothing more than to share or hear a good story. A dearest friend to me for more than 25 years, and the best friend to the other Ted. We travelled with Whitney and her husband, gave each other sublime parties over the years, and just thoroughly enjoyed each others company. A true friend. Over the years we have had certain friendships fall away because they stayed through the thick but not the thin. Whitney was always one of my biggest cheerleaders in any endeavor I took on, both big & small, and she was always there when we needed a shoulder. There through the good, the bad, the thick, the thin. A true friend. A lover of Champagne who joked that she had a Pavlovian response to Veuve when she saw me. We shared so many bottles, laughs and stories along the way. She was framily. A friend who becomes family. Whitney, our darling, to see you released of your pain brings us so much peace. You were a true one of a kind. We feel like a part of us is missing, but know that we will carry your spirit and memory with us always.


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  1. How beautiful. How fortunate to have had such a great friend.

  2. I’m so, so sorry for your loss, Ted. But what a lovely and loving tribute to all that Whitney was to you.

  3. A beautiful testimonial to a stellar friend and family member. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

  4. What a loving tribute. My husband and I are dealing with a similar situation: a dear, beloved friend, a true light, who is fighting something terrible. I hope I can find the words as you have when the day comes. Solace and comfort to you, and Whitney’s family and friends.

  5. Extending deepest sympathies.

  6. A Hard thing to let go of someone so close to you…a beautiful tribute.

  7. Best to you in your time of grief. And what a lovely, lovely tribute.

  8. A heartfelt and lovely tribute to your dear friend, Whitney. I can feel your pain through your words. Toast to a well-tended friendship that manifested into years of shared memories and love!

  9. Dear Ted (and Ted)

    What a loving tribute this is.

    So very sorry for your very great loss.


  10. … how lucky she was to have you as framily!

  11. Oh my, I can just feel and hear your sadness. It is so difficult to loss someone we love be they family or friend (family by choice is what I call my true friends). Thank God we have our memories and stories they will keep the spirit alive when we share them with others who knew them. Sending you and Ted peace. debbie

  12. Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.”
    ― William Shakespeare, Macbeth

    Ted, you are generous and loving soul. Thank you for sharing both the joys and sorrows of your life. My condolences to you and Ted on the loss of your dear framily member, Whitney.

  13. Priscilla Knoble

    Beautiful… Ted.

    She talked of “the Teds” often and told me great stories of your adventures. Whitney was a remarkable person, an amazing friend…one who brightened up any room she entered.

  14. oh. I’m so very sorry for your pain and your loss. You were so lucky to have had her.

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